Hey there Enlightened Managers.
I've not been the world's best blogger the past few weeks. Despite the fact that I am thinking of you all often, and itching to write, life has thrown a few curveballs lately.
One of those is the reason why I'm currently tapping away on my computer at the Phoenix airport, on my way home from a weeklong visit with my dying grandmother and her husband. We knew that her time was short, but we were surprised to find that she was moved to hospice just hours before we arrived.
So many things run through my mind, it is hard to say which ones I'd like to share with you. Should I talk about how beautiful and sad it was to see my grandfather teasing his wife into eating when she didn't feel like it? Or how her unstoppable spirit and wit continue to shine through even as the cancer is slowly working into her brain? These are all important things I think, but I'm not sure I'm ready to write about them yet - or if this is the place to do so.
One thing I did want to write about here is the difference between hospice and a hospital, and the kind of environment they create. Here are some of the things they do differently:
* No visiting hours - open 24 hours per day.
* No restrictions on food. They provide meals, or you can bring in food from home.
* No restrictions on visitors. Pets, friends, family, all welcome.
* Support for the dying, and support for the family. A social worker is there to talk about options, clergy come by to visit, and volunteers and nurses are always available.
When my mother-in-law passed away several years ago, it was a traumatic experience for everyone. She was frightened and so were we. No one knew what to expect. Being involved with a hospice for my grandmother has been an entirely different experience. It is still difficult, but there is an environment of caring and support.
I'm not sure what lessons there are to take from this, except that the hospital that served my mother-in-law and the hospice serving my grandmother both had good missions, and they were both filled with good people - yet they produced vastly different experiences.
I think that this hospice's leaders asked "What kind of an environment will best fulfill our mission?" Not simply pain management, but the bigger picture. I appreciate that perspective.
Although my work is not like the work of hospice (and yours may not be either) I can appreciate their wholistic view of service.
Even in the ickiest of times - there is always something to learn, right?
